Things said in a social setting recently were inappropriate and made me feel uneasy. Keeping silent seemed as deceitful as straight out lying. So, I sucked it up and offered my feedback.
We can either cultivate connection or create distance in relationships.
It occurs to me that guardedness and self-protection (two things I might admit to on a good day!) are distancing behaviors too. My job is to not bury feedback out of fear of rejection or embarrassment but to be honest with myself and possibly others out of love…and the desire for wholeness and healing.
“Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing. For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it.” 1 Peter 3:9-11 English Standard Version (ESV)