Comes the Dawn
“After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,
And you begin to understand that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises,
And you begin to accept defeats
With your head held high and your eyes open,
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
You learn to build your roads
On today because tomorrow’s ground
Is too uncertain for plans, and futures have
A way of falling down in midflight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine
Burns if you get too much,
So you plant your own garden and decorate
Your own soul, instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure,
That you really are strong
And you learn and learn . . . and you learn
With every goodbye you learn.
Life is an opportunity to learn. And relationship seems to be the hardest lesson of all. Authentic, real, non-judgmental, patient, kind interaction, when it is experienced from another or is given to another, is like healing balm that soothes. It is part of the shalom-peace-wholeness that mends us and allows us to receive more goodness. It gives us strength and courage. When we are in relationships that deny us or others the chance to be honest, to be real, to receive grace, or to be compassionate, then truly healthy interaction is circumvented or short-changed in favor of some other selfish priority.
I am meditating on the opportunities to just be real, kind, loving, non-judgmental, clear about boundaries, and open to relationship in the next hours, days, weeks…